Recently, while making the now daily walk to pick up my toddler from school it dawned on me that there are three guiding principles an individual would benefit from applying to themselves:
a) BE PRESENT and BE HONEST. Understand that you are exactly where you need to be, right now. It is critical, regardless of where you are, or rather where you should be…that you stay very far from accepting other peoples negative criticisms as fact. Messing up is part of blessing up!
b) LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE! It is easy (particularly as women) to not be too clear on what we like. As absurd as it sounds, many of the things we do are not necessarily things that please us authentically. Don’t be too stressed about it, just take time to question yourself about how you feel about a particular thought, idea, thing…you may find that how you thought you felt was really a matter of socialization and not fact. Really get to KNOW yourself.
c) LEARN! Never before has it been so easy to learn something new. The internet has made it that much easier. Have fun with it…challenge yourself to break out of your cocoons and grow with each new lesson.
So when is moving on the right thing to do?:
As a living being…growth is natural and change should be looked on as an opportunity. Imagine the horrible state the world would be in if caterpillars never left their skin. If the metamorphosis never happened, a world without the beauty and purpose of butterflies.
It is time to move on when:
There is no growth.
If you have been employed to a company for over a year and you have not noted any personal or inspired growth, it is time perhaps time to re-evaluate yourself:
a) BE PRESENT and BE HONEST. Is the job fulfilling your needs, are you fulfilling you company’s needs?
b)Do you actually LIKE your job, and does your job LIKE you. Check your energy when you think about work…do you get excited or are you sad/angry? If you are energised but still feel as though you are not fulfilling your company’s needs, and it is not fulfilling your needs, speak with your boss about what you both need to GROW
c) Are you able to LEARN anything that can improve your company or your ability to serve, and after you have learned it…is there an opportunity to implement what you have learnt?
I bet after these 3 processes, you will be a lot more clear on when to leave, remember…everything needs to grow including your company, you don’t need to feel anxious to part ways. A door always opens.