Dear Lord have mercy on our lying souls. If it were up to me, I would start outing every closet battyman and sadamite in Jamaican clergy, politics, music, media and marital unions etc etc that sit comfortably in the closet and throw stones at homosexuality contributing to this very confusing and schizophrenic state of homophobia eating away at the core of our beautiful island…like cancer. It grieve me.
Lets look at homophobia in Jamaica. ‘The Secret and the theories of the Law of Atttraction, provide that whatever we mention or give attention to the universe provides, if we are to follow this thought, then the amount of attention that Homosexuality and batty-business gets in terms of music, castigation from the average man on the street and the baby on breast, Jamaica could be batty capital of the world. When we tap that with the high incidences of child sexual abuse; plus the fact that the first and safest place for a man who thinks he may find other men attractive to hide, is in the crotches of many many ‘gyal inna bungle’, we are sitting on a big hot volcano MESS!
In Jamaica, the most common curse word is battyman and sadamite, regardless of whether or not there is actual confirmation or even suspicion of the subject’s sexuality. If you violate, you are a batty man, if you bad drive you are a battyman, if you step on someone’s foot, you are a battyman, if you are unable to defend yourself by being as aggressive as your opponent, then you are in trouble, if you present even slightly feminine, you are DEAD, unless you can run very fast, like 10 battyman. What is this obsession with battyman and gay issues that has our DJs and producers spending hours in studio making, and remixing music about something that is so disgusting…is it really all that disgusting? If I find something disgusting, I won’t be able to be around it any at all…it will not be the first thing on my lips.
Every now and again we hear of rumours or get confirmations of public figures that are gay, said ‘bulla man’ dancehall artistes who sing homophobic songs, if night should turn to day. This is the truth. The people who are most at risk and in trouble at the hands of homophobia, the dancehall lyrics and attitudes that appear to diss and marginalise same gender loving people are our children and women.
Positing that as a young man/woman who may find myself being curious about this homosexual life that has everyone in such a tizzy, human curiosity may lead me to want to find out what the big fuss is about, who should I turn to to explore this with, who will not let the cat out the bag and is guaranteed to be quiet about it…in the absence of freedom to associate with other same sex loving adults, someone who is perhaps vulnerable and gullible enough within whom I may be able to instill enough fear supported by the buoyant hate in the culture…a minor??? Most of the young homosexual men I have worked with will report sexual abuse in their childhood from family friends, uncles, fathers etc, the stories have been so gruesome. The most gruesome part is that these children do not know where to go, due to how opposed our culture is, from fear that if they say something, they too will feel the scorching heat of homophobia which will no doubt follow them into adulthood. I am in no way suggesting that all homosexuals are pedophiles, in the same way all heterosexuals are not pedophiles. However, if we allowed for adult homosexual relations to exist of course in privacy of relationships, where there is no need to hide then we may see a decline is such situations. Pedophilia is WRONG, but human sexuality is natural and will find a space for its expression if it is restricted. Stop forcing our children to suffer because of homophobia.
The Jamaican culture has very specific guidelines on what is expected of women versus men, and in that men are expected to have multiple female partners as one badge of his masculinity. Regardless of whether or not a man is attracted to other men, he must have nuff gyal inna bundle to prove that he is a man, one burners (men with one partner) have been frowned upon for years. Here it is that women have no right to and are prevented from having access to information about their partner’s real sexual preferences. How can he be honest about his feelings for men, if these feelings will cause him to be ostracized or at worst killed, how many gay men are hiding their sexual preferences up in your womb. What is the impact of pretending on the creation and sustaining of healthy and supportive family units.
We can chat all we want and tout the bible till the chariot of fire comes raining from the sky with the crowned prince of glory. Homosexuality as a part of human sexuality, has always existed and will continue to exist, deal with it and stop leaving its brunt to be faced by our unsuspecting women and children.